BET Awards 2014 or EBT Awards?


So I usually don’t get a chance to catch the various award shows that come on. But yesterday I was in the right place at the right time I guess and I just so happened to watch the show with #BlackTwitter which actually inspired me to do this post. I always get irritated watch award shows with twitter because black people NEVER have anything positive to say and it is always so clear during this time. Crabs in the barrel mentality

A night dedicated to celebrating black entertainers turns into a slander fest via twitter, but I digress.

When that new R&B guy August Alsina won his first award he appeared to be very emotional and crying behind his shades. Oh twitter lit him up! “it’s just a BET award!” So what you are saying? That because it comes from BET it’s not a valid award? The Grammy’s though are apparently right? We should put the same worth on black celebrations as we do for “other” award shows. In addition to this, I do believe this was August’s first award. He was humbled and I for one am happy to see it.

Shoutout to Pharrell for winning awards for his song happy. I actually like this song, maybe because I don’t listen to the radio lol

I didn’t make it to the end of the award show I’m sad to say because I actually enjoyed a number of performances. I appreciate the fact that although artist like Usher and Nicki Minaji have crossed over to pop they still come back to the BET awards. BET is probably the place where Hip-Hop and R&B artist receive their first award.

My favorite performance is a tie between Usher #TBT hits and the Light Skin Trinity (Trey, August & Chris). I heard Beyoncé sent a video of her performance (yawns) I would have stayed up to see her live but it’s just the BET awards right?

Lionel Richie was the recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award and I never really was a fan so I missed his tribute on purpose.
Chris Rock was funnier than I expected but I would still like to see Gary Owens host the BET awards. But Black twitter will probably protest a white man hosting the EBT awards (protest via twitter of course)
Overall it was a pretty good show, I’ll probably update this post after I watch the last hour. Lol

Who has the problem: Willow Smith, Her Parents, or Our Society??




I know I know I knowwwww I’m late!! But there has been so much going on that I am literally months behind with some of my post so bear with me 
When this picture first surfaced people were outraged! Facebook statuses popped up all over the place about how inappropriate this was. I am not going to lie, I was one of them. What is 20 year old Moises Arias doing laying in bed with 13 year old Willow Smith!?!? I saw the headline before I saw the picture and honestly I expected much worst. But that’s neither here nor there. I honestly didn’t think too much of it at first.

It was Jada’s response that got me thinking. She called all of us perverts and said we should be ashamed of ourselves. And you know what? I agree. Our society has been damaged beyond repair with pedophiles, child sex rings, & inappropriate relationships between children and adults that we are now crying wolf. We saw a girl, a shirtless man, and a bed and immediately assumed it was something inappropriate because that is what we are conditioned to believe is a red flag. What if it was a couch instead of a bed? Or what is he had a shirt on? What if they were outside instead of inside? Would any of this matter or is it his age that is the problem?

There are so many unknown details. Who took the picture? This indicates that there was at least one other person in the room. Will and Jada have already confirmed that Willow and Jayden both hang out with the Arias family regularly, so who’s to say that this wasn’t another hangout session? What I’m saying is that we shouldn’t be so quick to judge and label something as “sexual”. EVERYTHING IS NOT SEXUAL!! Some of us actually just hang out without it being a sexual matter.

With that being said, let the Smith’s raise their family the way they see fit. Nobody judges you for sending your kids to pick up your cigarettes lol Yall knew the Smiths were unorthodox.

My Fav Natural Hair Products!


So for those of you who follow me on twitter and IG know I have been natural for a few years now. And while I by no means consider myself a “naturailista” I have found a few products that have made this journey a lot smoother. What I have noticed is not everything works for everyone, but these are the products that I think are the most well rounded.

Leave in Conditioner: Cantu Leave in conditioning repair cream

I have been using this leave since I first began transitioning in 2010. It has never let me down; it smells so good and makes my hair so soft. I have tried a few other products but always end up back with cantu. It’s just overall a great line.

Deep Conditioner: Organix’s Renewing Argan Oil of Morocco Intense Moisturizing Treatment.

I just began using this about a year ago, and at first I was hesitant. It smelled good but was it really going to give my hair what it needed? The answer is YES!! My hair feels so rejuvenated afterwards. So I do this in between washes. So for me that’s every other week.

Shampoo: Ironically the Organix Renewing Argan Oil of Morocco

I think I just love this smell! But no I love the silky way my hair feels after washing it. You know how a lot of shampoos make your hair feel dry and brittle? This is the exact opposite! I assumed that it was this brand overall but after trying another Organix shampoo; it’s only this particular line that makes my hair feel this good. But different things work for different people so feel free to experiment.

Curling Cream: Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie.

Anybody who is natural knows about this product. This is the golden ticket to naturals!! I literally have suggested this product to all different hair types and textures and everybody seems to love it equally. It smells great and doesn’t leave any residue on my hair! It is my go to for twist outs, wash n go’s and my perm rod sets.

These are just a few of the products that I love, I’ll try to update my list as I experiment more.

Who Should I Vote For?

Ok so the MD primary election is June 24th. A lot of people do not participate in the local elections because they feel it is not as important. They cannot be more wrong. Local elections affect us just as much, if not more than the presidential election.  So who should you vote for? Well I’m here to provide you with the democratic candidates running for a MD Governor.  I will also provide a few issues that are important to them so you can know who and what you are voting for. If you are interested in the republican candidates as well you can visit the MD state board of election website.  So here goes:

Anthony G Brown/Ken Ulman
Important Issues: HBCU’S, College Affordability,
Jobs & Women


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Doug Gansler/Jolene Ivey
Important Issues:Jobs, Veterans, Education & Safety


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Ralph Jaffe/Freda Jaffe
Important Issues: No Tax increases, Nursing home rip-offs & Abolish MD emissions inspection


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Heather Mizeur/Delman Coates
Important Issues: Marriage Equality, Jobs, Marijuana Legalization, & Senior Citizens


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Charles U Smith/Clarence Tucker

*Unable to find any info on this candidate stay tuned*


Cindy A Walsh/Mary Elizabeth Wingate-Pennacchia
Important Issues: Labor Legislation, Tax Reform, Healthcare, Public Educational opportunities


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So these are the individuals running for the democratic ticket for MD State Governor. Of course these are not all of the issues that they represent. I encourage you to click on the links and do your own research. This is simply a jump start  Vote June 24th!!

Oldie but Goodie Song Review…“No Pain, No Gain”

I wanted to do a review of a song I’d heard recently. The song “No Pain, No Gain” isn’t a new song by any means. It was released in 1988 and was sung by Betty Wright. The song made me think of my past relationships. After some self-evaluating I concluded a while ago that I’ve confused loyalty with stupidity in past relationships. However, after listening to this song I had to sit and think for a moment. In this song Ms. Wright sings about how you have to go through some things with your man and the role women should play in their relationship. Mind you, this song was released in the late 80’s and the dating scene and relationships have mutated into an entirely different kinda beast; that is why I’m not sure if I would try to incorporate all the lyrics into my dating life.

A verse that stood out

“We’re all entitled to make a mistake
we got to prepare for some heartbreak
I was earnin’ my man, while I was learnin’ my man
something you young girls might not understand”

I can honestly say I sat for a minute and really thought about that one line “I was earnin’ my man, while I was learnin’ my man” I’ve always assumed the more bullshit I endured with a man the stronger our bond. Is that what this verse means? Although I endured a lot with them and may have earned something more today I have nothing to show for these relationships besides life lessons. So my question is when do you let go and let God because a wise woman knows when to bow out. Do you agree with the song? Do you think this song can relate to today’s relationships and dating?

Side Chick Turned Girlfriend (The Execption)


Before I begin this young woman’s story I must first say that hers is the exception not the rule. What I mean by that is usually when you are a side chick you DO NOT become the main/girlfriend/wife…that’s the rule. However, every now and then an exception is made…you should make your decisions based on the rule not the exception. (See movie “He’s just not that into you” for further clarification)

Now although she doesn’t care about her identity being revealed in this post, I do consider her a friend of mine so I will change her name while I tell her story. I figured side chicks get so much shade and hate it’ll be good to get their side of the story….so it begins

*Ashley* met him while in college and he had a GF at the time. He sent her a message via Facebook expressing his interest in her. She didn’t respond to his advances for months before decided to actually become involved with him.
She knew he had a girlfriend and was not concerned. Although he did have a girlfriend, it was no secret that him and Ashley were also involved. Ashley later found out that they were two other females he was having sex with in addition to her and his girlfriend. Once again she was not phased because she had her own stuff going on as well.
His girlfriend however had had enough and decided to leave him. But she didn’t leave to find a better man, she left because she wanted to be chased. And when that didn’t happen she ended up chasing him. To try to win him back she desperately suggested a 3some with him and Ashley. All parties agreed and it went down!
Apparently home girl did not know her competition well enough and the 3some did not win her her man back.
Speed things up about a year and now Ashley and him are officially dating and now ex GF decides to become friends with Ashley in another attempt to win her man back which was also unsuccessful.
They have now been together for 3 years. Ashley says that the distance in their relationship makes him insecure (he’s in a different state than she is) but I think he is worried about his karma…nonetheless she is getting fed up with his complaining and has begun talking up her ex boyfriend again. When I asked her how would she feel if he did the same, she replied that she would be indifferent about and they aren’t married….what do you think? Think they are going to make it?? Can a good side chick make a good girlfriend?