I Think All Drugs Should Be Legalized. Yes All of Them

Ok, before you become outraged and such, let me explain. Many of you have heard of/seen HBO’S hit show The Wire.

the wire

Well on the third season, major Bunny Colvin designated three areas of his district where drug dealers could sell drugs and drug addicts could buy. The only rules were you had to stay in those areas and no violence. He noticed a tremendous change in the other neighborhoods where drugs and violence had mostly occurred. This improved the quality of life of other Baltimore residents who were not involved in “the game” as they call it. In addition to this, he allowed various health department organizations to come and provide clean needles, HIV testing etc.
Now this got me thinking. What would our inner city neighborhoods be like if all drugs were legalized? Would it be as much violence? Probably would, but I can honestly say I think there will be a decrease in drug related violence. It wouldn’t be a need to fight over where to sell drugs if you can avoid the police all over. Of course there will probably be limitations and such just like with marijuana and like Bunny Colvin had with “Hamsterdam.”
Now I’m not suggesting that it becomes a free for all. This isn’t The Purge.
It would have to be in a controlled environment and with it’s own laws.
In the 1920’s, there was a lot of gang activity and violence surrounding the purchase of alcohol. In 1933 they made it legal. In my personal opinion Alcohol has just as many harmful effects as other drugs if overused.
One that I am completely sure of is that there will be definitely be a decrease of black men in jail.

Check out this bit of information I got from the NAACP Website :
Drug Sentencing Disparities
• About 14 million Whites and 2.6 million African Americans report using an illicit drug
• 5 times as many Whites are using drugs as African Americans, yet African Americans are sent to prison for drug offenses at 10 times the rate of Whites
• African Americans represent 12% of the total population of drug users, but 38% of those arrested for drug offenses, and 59% of those in state prison for a drug offense.
• African Americans serve virtually as much time in prison for a drug offense (58.7 months) as whites do for a violent offense (61.7 months). (Sentencing Project)

With this information, I am convinced that if drugs were legal that these stats would change.

What a drug addict needs is rehabilitation not prison.

BET Awards 2014 or EBT Awards?


So I usually don’t get a chance to catch the various award shows that come on. But yesterday I was in the right place at the right time I guess and I just so happened to watch the show with #BlackTwitter which actually inspired me to do this post. I always get irritated watch award shows with twitter because black people NEVER have anything positive to say and it is always so clear during this time. Crabs in the barrel mentality

A night dedicated to celebrating black entertainers turns into a slander fest via twitter, but I digress.

When that new R&B guy August Alsina won his first award he appeared to be very emotional and crying behind his shades. Oh twitter lit him up! “it’s just a BET award!” So what you are saying? That because it comes from BET it’s not a valid award? The Grammy’s though are apparently right? We should put the same worth on black celebrations as we do for “other” award shows. In addition to this, I do believe this was August’s first award. He was humbled and I for one am happy to see it.

Shoutout to Pharrell for winning awards for his song happy. I actually like this song, maybe because I don’t listen to the radio lol

I didn’t make it to the end of the award show I’m sad to say because I actually enjoyed a number of performances. I appreciate the fact that although artist like Usher and Nicki Minaji have crossed over to pop they still come back to the BET awards. BET is probably the place where Hip-Hop and R&B artist receive their first award.

My favorite performance is a tie between Usher #TBT hits and the Light Skin Trinity (Trey, August & Chris). I heard Beyoncé sent a video of her performance (yawns) I would have stayed up to see her live but it’s just the BET awards right?

Lionel Richie was the recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award and I never really was a fan so I missed his tribute on purpose.
Chris Rock was funnier than I expected but I would still like to see Gary Owens host the BET awards. But Black twitter will probably protest a white man hosting the EBT awards (protest via twitter of course)
Overall it was a pretty good show, I’ll probably update this post after I watch the last hour. Lol

Who has the problem: Willow Smith, Her Parents, or Our Society??




I know I know I knowwwww I’m late!! But there has been so much going on that I am literally months behind with some of my post so bear with me 
When this picture first surfaced people were outraged! Facebook statuses popped up all over the place about how inappropriate this was. I am not going to lie, I was one of them. What is 20 year old Moises Arias doing laying in bed with 13 year old Willow Smith!?!? I saw the headline before I saw the picture and honestly I expected much worst. But that’s neither here nor there. I honestly didn’t think too much of it at first.

It was Jada’s response that got me thinking. She called all of us perverts and said we should be ashamed of ourselves. And you know what? I agree. Our society has been damaged beyond repair with pedophiles, child sex rings, & inappropriate relationships between children and adults that we are now crying wolf. We saw a girl, a shirtless man, and a bed and immediately assumed it was something inappropriate because that is what we are conditioned to believe is a red flag. What if it was a couch instead of a bed? Or what is he had a shirt on? What if they were outside instead of inside? Would any of this matter or is it his age that is the problem?

There are so many unknown details. Who took the picture? This indicates that there was at least one other person in the room. Will and Jada have already confirmed that Willow and Jayden both hang out with the Arias family regularly, so who’s to say that this wasn’t another hangout session? What I’m saying is that we shouldn’t be so quick to judge and label something as “sexual”. EVERYTHING IS NOT SEXUAL!! Some of us actually just hang out without it being a sexual matter.

With that being said, let the Smith’s raise their family the way they see fit. Nobody judges you for sending your kids to pick up your cigarettes lol Yall knew the Smiths were unorthodox.

My Fav Natural Hair Products!


So for those of you who follow me on twitter and IG know I have been natural for a few years now. And while I by no means consider myself a “naturailista” I have found a few products that have made this journey a lot smoother. What I have noticed is not everything works for everyone, but these are the products that I think are the most well rounded.

Leave in Conditioner: Cantu Leave in conditioning repair cream

I have been using this leave since I first began transitioning in 2010. It has never let me down; it smells so good and makes my hair so soft. I have tried a few other products but always end up back with cantu. It’s just overall a great line.

Deep Conditioner: Organix’s Renewing Argan Oil of Morocco Intense Moisturizing Treatment.

I just began using this about a year ago, and at first I was hesitant. It smelled good but was it really going to give my hair what it needed? The answer is YES!! My hair feels so rejuvenated afterwards. So I do this in between washes. So for me that’s every other week.

Shampoo: Ironically the Organix Renewing Argan Oil of Morocco

I think I just love this smell! But no I love the silky way my hair feels after washing it. You know how a lot of shampoos make your hair feel dry and brittle? This is the exact opposite! I assumed that it was this brand overall but after trying another Organix shampoo; it’s only this particular line that makes my hair feel this good. But different things work for different people so feel free to experiment.

Curling Cream: Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie.

Anybody who is natural knows about this product. This is the golden ticket to naturals!! I literally have suggested this product to all different hair types and textures and everybody seems to love it equally. It smells great and doesn’t leave any residue on my hair! It is my go to for twist outs, wash n go’s and my perm rod sets.

These are just a few of the products that I love, I’ll try to update my list as I experiment more.

Who Should I Vote For?

Ok so the MD primary election is June 24th. A lot of people do not participate in the local elections because they feel it is not as important. They cannot be more wrong. Local elections affect us just as much, if not more than the presidential election.  So who should you vote for? Well I’m here to provide you with the democratic candidates running for a MD Governor.  I will also provide a few issues that are important to them so you can know who and what you are voting for. If you are interested in the republican candidates as well you can visit the MD state board of election website.  So here goes:

Anthony G Brown/Ken Ulman
Important Issues: HBCU’S, College Affordability,
Jobs & Women
Website: http://anthonybrown.com


Photo Cred: Washington Post
Doug Gansler/Jolene Ivey
Important Issues:Jobs, Veterans, Education & Safety
Website: http://douggansler.com/


Photo cred: marylandreporter.com

Ralph Jaffe/Freda Jaffe
Important Issues: No Tax increases, Nursing home rip-offs & Abolish MD emissions inspection
Website: http://www.fedupwithcrookedpolitics.com


Photo Cred: http://www.fedupwithcrookedpolitics.com

Heather Mizeur/Delman Coates
Important Issues: Marriage Equality, Jobs, Marijuana Legalization, & Senior Citizens
Website: http://www.heathermizeur.com


Photo Cred: greenbelt.patch.com

Charles U Smith/Clarence Tucker

*Unable to find any info on this candidate stay tuned*


Cindy A Walsh/Mary Elizabeth Wingate-Pennacchia
Important Issues: Labor Legislation, Tax Reform, Healthcare, Public Educational opportunities
Website: http://www.citizensoversightmaryland.com/


photo cred: http://www.citizensoversightmaryland.com/

So these are the individuals running for the democratic ticket for MD State Governor. Of course these are not all of the issues that they represent. I encourage you to click on the links and do your own research. This is simply a jump start  Vote June 24th!!

Oldie but Goodie Song Review…“No Pain, No Gain”

I wanted to do a review of a song I’d heard recently. The song “No Pain, No Gain” isn’t a new song by any means. It was released in 1988 and was sung by Betty Wright. The song made me think of my past relationships. After some self-evaluating I concluded a while ago that I’ve confused loyalty with stupidity in past relationships. However, after listening to this song I had to sit and think for a moment. In this song Ms. Wright sings about how you have to go through some things with your man and the role women should play in their relationship. Mind you, this song was released in the late 80’s and the dating scene and relationships have mutated into an entirely different kinda beast; that is why I’m not sure if I would try to incorporate all the lyrics into my dating life.

A verse that stood out

“We’re all entitled to make a mistake
we got to prepare for some heartbreak
I was earnin’ my man, while I was learnin’ my man
something you young girls might not understand”

I can honestly say I sat for a minute and really thought about that one line “I was earnin’ my man, while I was learnin’ my man” I’ve always assumed the more bullshit I endured with a man the stronger our bond. Is that what this verse means? Although I endured a lot with them and may have earned something more today I have nothing to show for these relationships besides life lessons. So my question is when do you let go and let God because a wise woman knows when to bow out. Do you agree with the song? Do you think this song can relate to today’s relationships and dating?