Game of Thrones and Rape Culture

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SPOILER ALERT! SPOILER ALERT! SPOILER ALAERT!

If you are NOT caught up on Game of Thrones do not read!

You have been warned.

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s talk about it. This is not a recap, and I will not talk about all of the other random things that happened on Sunday’s episode.  I am here to try to figure out how I feel about Sansa’s rape scene with Ramsay Bolton.

I am already conflicted about this sadistic character because I love Iwan Rheon

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Especially when he was on misfits but I have to accept that, that show is over now and Ramsay is not Simon in any way.

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Moving on, many people are upset about the rape scene.  They say they are never watching again, too much has happened to Sansa, the writers are insensitive to rape, blah blah blah.

Okay first off and I’m sad that I even have to say this: It’s a television show. A fictional television show. It’s a fictional world with fictional characters. She was not raped in real life. Yes I already hear your rebuttal in my head “But so many women and girls are raped in real life”

Yes this is true, however, how many of these women have been forced into marriages to plot revenge against their slain family members so they can become the Queen of the North? Oh

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Secondly, Sansa Stark has had a rough life. I agree. But ummm so much more has happened to so many other characters. Theon for example.  If you’ve been watching then I don’t even have to go into details about his experiences with Ramsay.

Yes this show uses rape a lot.  But in this uncivilized environment it’s not unrealistic.  Not to mention that majority of these characters have some severe mental illnesses going on.

I personally believe Sansa will be okay.  She is so much smarter now than she was when she was with Joffrey.  And hopefully she will avenge her family, because the Stark family have not been having a good run on this show.

Thoughts?

I am A BLACK Woman, So Hear Me Roar!!

I just finished another semester of grad school. My last professor was a Caribbean man. In my class there were five women. 2 Black (1 was me), 1 white and 2 Africans. Almost immediately I noticed his “preference” for the women from Africa. This didn’t bother me because I know I work hard and teachers always have favorites. But during class discussions and even presentations, I noticed his short and sometimes sarcastic remarks towards me and the other Black woman. With our online discussions he sometimes seemed surprised that my responses were as intelligent as they were. And that’s saying something because I really didn’t try that hard, so just imagine if I actually put work into it lol It bothered me, I was taking it personal.   I thought it was an attack against me as a person.  But my other classmate summed it up for me the last day of class.  She said “It’s because we’re regular black, we’re from this country so we’re dumb to him”.

It all made sense.

“The most disrespected person in America is the Black woman.  The most unprotected person in America is the Black woman.  The most neglected person in America is the Black woman.”

This was spoken by Malcolm X in 1962. Sadly it is still relevant.  For a while now when I hear white women discuss women’s issues I got the feeling we (black women) weren’t included in that protest.

And then I heard Patricia Arquette’s speech at the Oscars and got that same feeling. But only when I saw her interview backstage did I know for sure her speech wasn’t intended for women of color. “It’s time for all the women in America and all the men that love women, and all the gay people, and all the people of color that we’ve all fought for to fight for us now.”

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Now I don’t think she meant any harm. She just wasn’t thinking about black women or lesbians for that matter either. But that’s just the problem! We are NEVER thought about or considered within this feminist movement.

The fact that she believes that WOC can just put their “little race problems” to the side and pick up the women’s equality issue is just sad. As a person of color AND woman, we are carrying double the load.

The struggle of the Black Woman in America just cannot be compared. Maybe I’m bias because I know this struggle first hand.

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Traveling Trap Queen: My trip to the Dominican Republic

I’m just getting back from my vacation in Punta Cana! It was amazing! Me and my boyfriend had a great time!  Before I start my recap and post my pictures, I’ll give a little information about planning. We booked our trip online in November through Vacation Express. We paid a deposit that was about $200 a person, and the remaining balance was due in March. Which made it easier for us to afford. Everything was included with this package, flight, food and drinks.

We stayed at the Vista Sol resort

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and I was a little nervous because of all the not so good reviews I’ve read. But we had a great time and didn’t have any issues.

Our first day there (Friday) we got off the plane and realized I probably should have started my Rosetta stone Spanish lessons lol I was totally unprepared for the language barrier. But despite this, using my minimal Spanish I learned in college, we were able to get whatever needed. So we walked around the resort and tried to get something to eat. We found a sports bar located on the beach and decided to eat there. All of the restaurants were included in our all inclusive package. I’ve heard bad things about the food so we got something familiar to start with lol

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Yep it was horrible lol but the potato wedges were good so we stuck to that. Now off to explore and get some of that all inclusive alcohol

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That’s my boyfriend! It was his birthday! Yay lol anyway I’m ashamed to say that our 1st night there we passed out around 7 and didn’t wake up until the next day lol On Saturday we got a early start and promised no early bedtime

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Breakfast at the buffet was pretty good. Everything taste different though. Not necessarily a bad way just different. You see that didn’t stop Terry though lol it took me a little longer to adjust to the food.
Lunch was even weirder but I did a little better.

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Some type of seafood pasta and fish which was actually pretty good.

For dinner we ate at the Mexican restaurant. The resort had 3 speciality restaurants (Mexican, Italian, and French) that you had to make reservations for. The Mexican restaurant was amazing! It was so good that I forgot to take a pic of what I had lol but we took some pics after we ate.

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Oh the best part. They served us tequila shots at dinner.

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The Italian restaurant wasn’t good, but they still were dressed cute lol

The next day we did our first excursion. Riding the buggies through the country.

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It was so much poverty! So sad to see the living conditions so poor.

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We spent some time at a beach and then visited some cave. The locals were really aggressive at trying to get us to buy stuff so we just took a few pics and headed back to our buggy.

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Yall know I’m a old lady lol so after that I needed a nap. But that night we went to a beach party. It was a bunch of drunk white people dancing so it was entertaining lol

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The next day we did a happy hour snorkeling cruise. It was sooooo much fun! I recommend everyone try one! Terry was not feeling snorkeling but i tried it and had fun

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Afterwards we turned uppppp. They parked the boat in a natural pool and we all partied in the water for about a hour…

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Yep so we were done done lol when we got back to the resort we partied with a random band that was outside lol

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That was our last night and we definitely went out with a bang!
Oh side note there were so many damn birds!

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And other animals…

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Oh and you know I had to bring back a personal souvenir lol

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Books I Read in April…

Okay folks! I am here again for my monthly book reviews. As I’ve stated before I am trying to read 150 books in a year (December to December) I usually average 5 books a month but in April I set a new record for myself and read 7 books! Yay! Go me! We’ll let’s get to it!

7. The Girl With No Name: The Incredible True Story of a Child Raised by Monkeys by Marina Chapman

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“In 1954, in a remote mountain village in South America, a little girl was abducted. She was four years old. Marina Chapman was stolen from her housing estate and then abandoned deep in the Colombian jungle. That she survived is a miracle. Two days later, half-drugged, terrified, and starving, she came upon a troop of capuchin monkeys. Acting entirely on instinct, she tried to do what they did: she ate what they ate and copied their actions, and little by little, learned to fend for herself.

So begins the story of her five years among the monkeys, during which time she gradually became feral; she lost the ability to speak, lost all inhibition, lost any real sense of being human, replacing the structure of human society with the social mores of her new simian family. But society was eventually to reclaim her. At age ten she was discovered by a pair of hunters who took her to the lawless Colombian city of Cucuta where, in exchange for a parrot, they sold her to a brothel. When she learned that she was to be groomed for prostitution, she made her plans to escape. But her adventure wasn’t over yet…

I Thought…

Okay, Intially I really enjoyed this story. The whole living in the jungle thing got my attention and I appreciated the details that answered the questions I might have. Like how does she go to the bathroom? Bathe? Etc.

But then she leaves the jungle and this is where the book lost me. She ends up at home after home filled with abuse and a few random kind people that she wonders what happened to over and over. Then after all of these horrible experiences, she finds a good home and the book ends. WTF! After all of that horribleness, we should at least get two chapters on the details of her new happiness.
Oh well….read this book if you want to be depressed. I gave it 2 stars on good reads

6. Titanic with ZOMBIES (The Zombie Apocalypse at Sea) by Richard Brown

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A mysterious infection turns hundreds of passengers into violent, flesh-eating zombies, sinking the maiden voyage of the Titanic.

Forget everything you thought you knew about the famous disaster. This is the zombie apocalypse … at sea.

All aboard. It’s about to go down!”

I Thought…

This was a great book! It really was. I’m giving it three stars because after a while it just felt wrong. The titanic was a traumatic event by itself but to add zombies just made it too much. Maybe i’m soft lol IDK it’s almost like somebody adding zombies to 9/11. Anyway it was great writing but I just was turned off

5.Twisted by Andrew E. Kaufman

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“Dr. Christopher Kellan spends his days at Loveland Psychiatric Hospital, overseeing a unit known as Alpha Twelve, home to the most deranged and psychotic killers imaginable. His newest patient, Donny Ray Smith, is accused of murdering ten young girls and making their bodies disappear. But during his first encounter with Donny, Christopher finds something else unsettling: the man looks familiar.

The killer with a secret…

Donny Ray knows things about Christopher—things he couldn’t have possibly learned at Loveland. As the psychologist delves deeper into the mysterious patient’s case, Christopher’s life whirls out of control. The contours of his mind are rapidly losing shape, and his grasp on reality is slipping even faster. Is he going mad, or is that what Donny Ray wants him to think?

The terror that binds them…

In this taut psychological thriller from Andrew E. Kaufman, bestselling author of The Lion, the Lamb, the Hunted, a tormented man must face his fear and enter the mind of a killer to find the truth…even if it costs him his sanity.”

I Thought…

Okay….I really can’t review this book like I want to without giving away the entire story but here goes.

I knew from the way this book was headed that it would be like the movie shutter island, and I was right but also wrong. If that makes sense. I am so utterly confused that I think I will reread this. I personally wouldn’t call it a thriller because a lot of the stuff that Chris was going through didn’t seem real and after some time I actually wondered if the entire book was a figment of my imagination.

I’m not giving this book 4 stars because it was a great book. I’m giving it 4 stars because it has done what no other book has done before, confuse the shit out of me but at the same time make me want to read it again.

4. My Sister’s Grave (The Tracy Crosswhite Series Book 1) by Robert Dugoni

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“Tracy Crosswhite has spent twenty years questioning the facts surrounding her sister Sarah’s disappearance and the murder trial that followed. She doesn’t believe that Edmund House—a convicted rapist and the man condemned for Sarah’s murder—is the guilty party. Motivated by the opportunity to obtain real justice, Tracy became a homicide detective with the Seattle PD and dedicated her life to tracking down killers.

When Sarah’s remains are finally discovered near their hometown in the northern Cascade mountains of Washington State, Tracy is determined to get the answers she’s been seeking. As she searches for the real killer, she unearths dark, long-kept secrets that will forever change her relationship to her past—and open the door to deadly danger.”

I Thought….

I’m only giving this book 4 stars because of the ending! This was a 360 book. Meaning what I was presented with in the beginning was also the end. All of the twist and turns and we ended up right where we started. A complete circle! Ugh I was so upset, but this does not take away from the greatness of the book. I was reading this book at work, on the bus, on the train I could not wait to see what happened!

But seriously one honest conversation between Tracy and the Police chief could have prevented this entire book (well not Sarah being abducted) but everything else that followed.

3. Wreckage by Emily Bleeker

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Lillian Linden is a liar. On the surface, she looks like a brave survivor of a plane crash. But she’s been lying to her family, her friends, and the whole world since rescue helicopters scooped her and her fellow survivor, Dave Hall, off a deserted island in the South Pacific. Missing for almost two years, the castaways are thrust into the spotlight after their rescue, becoming media darlings overnight. But they can’t tell the real story—so they lie.

The public is fascinated by the castaways’ saga, but Lillian and Dave must return to their lives and their spouses. Genevieve Randall—a hard-nosed journalist and host of a news program—isn’t buying it. She suspects Lillian’s and Dave’s explanations about the other crash survivors aren’t true. And now, Genevieve’s determined to get the real story, no matter how many lives it destroys.

In this intriguing tale of survival, secrets, and redemption, two everyday people thrown together by tragedy must finally face the truth…even if it tears them apart.”

I Thought…

I rated this book 5 stars at first but then changed it to 4 stars. I realized the thing I enjoyed most about this book was the ending. I was pleasantly surprised. But other than that it was an average read. I figured out all of the “secrets and lies” almost immediately but still enjoyed watching them unravel.

2. Ugly Young Thing (Grand Trespass #2) by Jennifer Jaynes

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Sixteen-year-old Allie has already experienced a lifetime of horror, having lost her mother and serial killer brother to mental illness.

Returning to her childhood home in Louisiana, Allie ends up in foster care and is placed with Miss Bitty, an eccentric but kindly older woman who shows her a new direction and brighter future.

But Allie’s new life takes a devastating turn when young women in the area start turning up dead, and she begins to see shadowy figures outside her bedroom. As Miss Bitty grows inexplicably distant, a nagging voice makes Allie wonder if death has found her yet again…or if it never really left her at all.“

I Thought…

Up until I was about 90% done with this book it was a nice 4 star book. Not because it wasn’t as good as the first, I’d just become familiar with the authors style and figured out who the killer was fairly early. I also figured out how this killer related to Ms. Bitty. What sent me for a loop however was how this all related to Allie. I did not see that coming at all! And for that plot twist at the end, this book has earned 5 stars. I just wish that Ms. Bitty would have given Allie an explanation at the end. After all the girl had been through she deserved it.

 

1. Never Smile at Strangers (Grand Trespass #1) by Jennifer Jaynes

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“When nineteen-year-old Tiffany Perron vanishes without a trace, the residents of rural Grand Trespass, Louisiana, launch a desperate search to find her. But few clues are unearthed, and before long another young woman disappears.

As locals continue to vanish, residents begin to discover that they might not know those closest to them as well as they had thought. Lies and insecurities quickly surface, leading everyone to question one another…and their involvement in the disappearances.

Meanwhile, an unstable, twisted killer is hiding quietly in their midst. Ever since his mother’s murder four years earlier, he’s been forced to raise his disturbed teenage sister. He’s terrified of her—and of women in general—and his world revolves around his fear of and obsession over them.”

I Thought…

Hands down the best mystery/crime novel I have read yet for my reading challenge.It did start off confusing with all the different POV’s but it all came together nicely. The way the author gave you the killer’s POV without revealing his identity was brilliant. Especially because I could’ve sworn the killer was one person until I was about 70% done and I figured it out. Still a great story. I wouldn’t mind reading again. I rated it 5 stars on my goodreads page.

 

 

 

My Favorite Game of Thrones Characters

Somebody asked me to name my favorite Game of Thrones character. For most people this might seem like a easy task. But for anybody who watches the show knows that there are quite a few who may come to mind. So I actually wrote down all of my favorites that came to mind and put them in order of who I liked the most. It was about 15 characters all together but I’ll only do my top 10 below…

*WARNING* IF YOU ARE NOT CAUGHT UP TO GAME OF THRONES DO NOT READ. SEASON 5 SPOILERS MAY BE INCLUDE

10. Jon Snow

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Who?

The Bastard son of Eddard (Ned) Stark and currently the commander of the Night’s Watch.

Why?

Other than him being Ned’s oldest living child, and being one of the most attractive, Jon has a morally right attitude in a very unethical world. If that makes sense. He is very much like his father and always seeks to do the right thing. All he ever wanted was to make his father proud.

9. Eddard Stark (Ned)

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Who?

The late Lord of the North and Patriarch of the Stark Family (also Jon Snows dad)

Why?

As I mentioned earlier, Ned seeks to always do the right thing. This sometimes gets him in trouble but he doesn’t care. He literally puts his honor over everything and ends up losing his life over it in season one.

8. Arya Stark

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Who?

The youngest daughter of Ned and Cat Stark

Why?

Yes I have a lot of the Stark family here and you will see more. There is only one word for Arya: BadAss. She is one of the most determined little girls I have ever seen on television. Although this season I am a little bored with her storyline. Hopefully they do more with her character soon.

7. Khal Drogo

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Who?

The king of the horse tribe from season 1 and Daenerys Targaryen’s husband.

Why?

Ummmm do you see that pic!? Hands down the hottest guy on this whole show, although he was only on for one season.

6. Robb Stark

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Who?

Ned Stark’s oldest legitimate child. Previous lord of Winterfell (after his dad died)

Why?

I have always loved Robb. Although he made some stupid decisions that eventually lead to his death, he had the same kind heart that the rest of his family had. It took me some time to get over the Red Wedding :(

 

5. Rhaegar Targaryen

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Who?

The mad king’s oldest son and heir to the throne (previously of course)

Why?

Okay so I know this one doesn’t make sense to a lot of people. But after looking at The Game of Thrones backstory YouTube videos (Your welcome) and reading their Wikipedia pages, I realized I had a lot of sympathy for Rhaegar. He did indeed start everything that has led to this show but I believe he did it out of love.

4. Oberyn Martell

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Who?

Prince of Dorne. (Guy who was killed by The Mountain last season)

Why?

1. He stood up for Tyrion 2. He challenged The Mountain 3. HE CHALLENGED THE MOUNTAIN

 

3. Daenerys Targaryen

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Who?

The only Targaryen left. Mother of Dragons. Khaleesi. Queen of everything

Why?

C’mon. Do you really even need to ask. She literally started out as a sex slave and is now thee most powerful women on this show. That’s even without her dragons, but they definitely do help.

 

2. Tyrion Lannister

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Who?

The youngest Lannister, the most disliked (by his family) and he’s a dwarf

Why?

All because of Peter Dinklage. Seriously he is amazing!! But as a character, Tyrion is the smartest underdog here. Whereas Khaleesi might need advisors to help her make decisions as a ruler, I’m sure Tyrion could do it all by himself

And finally……….*drum roll*

 

1. Margaery Tyrell

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Who?

Youngest daughter of the Tyrell’s in the Reach. Very rich and powerful family

Why?

She hasn’t been around too long, but so far she is the only character who has managed to become queen without arranging anybody’s death or killing them herself. Joffrey does not count because that was her grandmothers doing. She genuinely cares about people (including the poor) and she even helped Sansa when she was being held captive in Kings Landing. Despite all of this, she still slays Cersei whenever the opportunity presents itself and does it with so much class that I have to rewind it and make sure I heard correct. Yeah she’s definitely the character to watch!

 

 

BALTIMORE!: A Rant

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Man Man!! Where to begin! Please if you happen to know me personally, read this in my yelling Drew voice.

I hate repeating information and by now I’m sure everyone is aware of what’s going on in Baltimore currently. The sad thing is a whole lot of people don’t know what has caused this “sudden turn of violence.”

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So what I’m going to do with this post is state my various rebuttals to comments I have heard on the news, Facebook and twitter.

Oh and please excuse my language this might get ugly….

“Those thugs…”

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Yes something does seem different huh?

Oh and these thugs “tore up” their neighborhood too. Where’s all the disdain and disgust for them?

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  1. “…Tearing up their own neighborhood”

How many people actually owned buildings that were damaged last night?

But more importantly when’s the last time you’ve seen Baltimore? The REAL Baltimore not that bullshit Harbor??

Well I was there not even a month ago. And literally every other house is boarded up and abandoned. So what exactly are they loosing??

NOT A FUCKING THING!! BECAUSE THEY DONT HAVE SHIT!

They don’t have anything! Except their lives and that’s not even guaranteed between drugs, violence and police. So why not tear shit up to get your point across…It’s not like our peaceful protest have been successful thus far.

Oh and FUCK CNN!

Wooo Saahhhh okay I’m calm

Okay I’ll leave you all with a quote by Dr. Martin Luther King…

“It is not enough for me to stand before you tonight and condemn riots. It would be morally irresponsible for me to do that without, at the same time, condemning the contingent, intolerable conditions that exist in our society. These conditions are the things that cause individuals to feel that they have no other alternative than to engage in violent rebellions to get attention. And I must say tonight that a riot is the language of the unheard.”

Transgender Children: How Young is Too Young?

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About a month ago, I was reading an article about Ryland Whittingon on CNN’s page. I have provided the link so I won’t get into too many details but at the end of the article I couldn’t help thinking “wow this child is only 7, that’s a lot to deal with at a young age”

When I was a little girl, I wanted to be tough. I chose Legos over dolls and wanted to play basketball instead of dance. I even hated my name because it was too feminine. But eventually I grew out of it and out of my tomboy phase.

I’m not saying this is the case here, but these parents are moving a bit too quickly in their decision to address their daughter as a boy.

Hear me out

This child is 7. Seven! I don’t even remember “decisions” I made when I was 12 let alone 7. What happens if when Ryland starts puberty and decides he wants to be a girl again? I’m assuming he will become a girl.

I’m suggesting that maybe waiting a child is at least in middle school before making these drastic life altering decisions. The parents are looking into blocking puberty and “administering cross-hormones”. That is a HUGE deal!!

They are making it almost impossible for Ryland to change his mind.

If these are decisions that are left up to the person then what’s wrong with waiting until the person is mature enough to make these decisions??

Anyway here’s another article about the benefits of making these decisions while children are young. I just disagree.

Thoughts?