When my bestie and I decided to started this blog I made a conscious decision to avoid bashing my exes for two reasons: 1. I don’t want to come off as a “sour apple bitter bitch… “(That’s a Gucci Mane reference burr…lol) and 2. Every relationship is an opportunity to learn something new about yourself or the next relationship. I got the idea for this post from Suzie 81’s Blog post “We can learn to Love again – Why No Relationship is a Waste of Time”. After reading her post it got me reflecting on my past relationships and here are some of the lessons I’ve learned.
Note: This is in no particular order
Boyfriend Number 1: This was my longest relationship and maybe it shouldn’t have. . I feel like Wale summed it up best in his song Breakup “Life is a movie we both say cut but most times darling the sequel sucks.” Since this relationship was long here are just a few of the many lessons I’ve learned. Here goes: Always trust your gut instinct. Do not confuse loyalty with stupidity. Last but not less patience! Patience is very important in a relationship. It’s says it in the Bible 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 “Love is patient…”
Boyfriend Number 2: I will call this one Lover Homie Friend. He was my first love and we lost our virginity together, so he’ll always hold a special place in my heart. However that doesn’t mean I haven’t had my share of drama and pain with this man. The lessons I’ve learned from this relationship: Forgiveness, Acceptance, and everything comes full circle; in that order. With what I’ve learned we are able to have a friendship today.
Boyfriend Number 3: This one should have never happen. To call this relationship crazy would be a major understatement. We should have never date for so many reasons. The quote I would use to best sum up this relationship is “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger” and this relationship did just that. What I’ve learned is that honesty is key; be honest with yourself and your partner always. Know when to leave or like I always say “Know when to bow out gracefully”. Everything comes with a price and know your worth. Never allow someone to disrespect you. Most importantly your relationship should never compromise your relationships with your family and friends.
Boyfriend Number 4 and 5: I’m going to combine these two together because they were both rebounds and I learned similar lessons. You can’t rush the pain of a breakup … sometimes you just gotta let it burn. (Usher reference…Yeah!) Also it doesn’t matter how good a guy looks on paper you can’t force it.
…remember don’t cry because it’s over smile cause it happen