Before I begin this young woman’s story I must first say that hers is the exception not the rule. What I mean by that is usually when you are a side chick you DO NOT become the main/girlfriend/wife…that’s the rule. However, every now and then an exception is made…you should make your decisions based on the rule not the exception. (See movie “He’s just not that into you” for further clarification)
Now although she doesn’t care about her identity being revealed in this post, I do consider her a friend of mine so I will change her name while I tell her story. I figured side chicks get so much shade and hate it’ll be good to get their side of the story….so it begins
*Ashley* met him while in college and he had a GF at the time. He sent her a message via Facebook expressing his interest in her. She didn’t respond to his advances for months before decided to actually become involved with him.
She knew he had a girlfriend and was not concerned. Although he did have a girlfriend, it was no secret that him and Ashley were also involved. Ashley later found out that they were two other females he was having sex with in addition to her and his girlfriend. Once again she was not phased because she had her own stuff going on as well.
His girlfriend however had had enough and decided to leave him. But she didn’t leave to find a better man, she left because she wanted to be chased. And when that didn’t happen she ended up chasing him. To try to win him back she desperately suggested a 3some with him and Ashley. All parties agreed and it went down!
Apparently home girl did not know her competition well enough and the 3some did not win her her man back.
Speed things up about a year and now Ashley and him are officially dating and now ex GF decides to become friends with Ashley in another attempt to win her man back which was also unsuccessful.
They have now been together for 3 years. Ashley says that the distance in their relationship makes him insecure (he’s in a different state than she is) but I think he is worried about his karma…nonetheless she is getting fed up with his complaining and has begun talking up her ex boyfriend again. When I asked her how would she feel if he did the same, she replied that she would be indifferent about and they aren’t married….what do you think? Think they are going to make it?? Can a good side chick make a good girlfriend?