Straight Outta Compton

I saw Straight Outta Compton Monday morning around 11:00 AM. It was sold out. Yes a Monday morning movie was sold out. So I knew this was something big.


And I also knew that drama would soon follow.

Maybe I’m reaching here (because I’ve honestly mostly read positive reviews)but I have noticed a few people (in the comments section mostly) talk about how the group disrespects women in their lyrics (true!!) and how they were only used as sexual props in the movie (Untrue)


Stop reading if you haven’t seen the movie!!!!

So there is one scene I’ll refer to as the “Bye Felicia” scene. Women are walking around naked, having sex etc. etc.

Pause for a moment. Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t part of the “feminist” movement sexual freedom? Meaning being able to do as you please sexually without judgment. So I’m confused why this scene bothers so many feminist. Aren’t these women just exploring their sexual freedom?

Or is it because they are doing so with black men which mean that it’s automatically disrespect? Or is it because they’re black women?

I’ve stated long ago that we as black women are not included in the “American feminist” conversation. I’m honestly okay with that because as sad as it is: Our issues and the issues of white women are not the same.

We are overly sexualized in pop culture. We are told not to bring up race when discussing gender equality, but how can we not!? When our race plays such a huge part in our lives?

I know I’m rambling, but to get back to the point lol I don’t agree with all of NWA’s lyrics but I have to respect the influence they had on Hip Hop culture and on Pop culture in general.


Now on to their lyrics. Of course their lyrics make me uncomfortable!! Of course! I feel like that goes without saying. But Ice Cube brought up a great point in his recent interview with Rolling Stone. “If you’re a ho, you probably don’t like us. If you’re not a ho or a bitch, don’t be jumping to the defense of these despicable females.” This is true. I think this is the reason why I never became downright outraged at some of their lyrics. And if you’re still confused, listen to Tupac’s “Wonder why they call you Bitch” for further clarification.

Lastly, Dr. Dre

Never really been a Dr. Dre fan because of the domestic abuse allegations against him.

  1. These allegations are not new, they are twenty years old.
  2. I assumed there were a bunch of women he had abused (4-5)
  3. I didn’t know that he had spoken about these incidents and thought he chose to ignore them instead
  4. I also didn’t know that they had settled out of court

Okay so after doing my research, there were only two women accusing him of violence not many like I originally thought. These incidents occurred in the early nineties so why are these women doing interviews and talking negatively about the NWA movie?? I’m sorry. This movie was not about Dr. Dre’s life so what did you expect exactly?

2ndly (and this is just my personal opinion) if you received money instead of pressing criminal charges, you aren’t a victim anymore. You got your money years ago, why are you brining this up now like you never received justice? I wasn’t there so I can’t say what happened or didn’t happen. All I know is what the media reports.

Regardless of how you feel about the group or even the individuals, you cannot deny that this was a great movie and a story that needed to be told.



I am A BLACK Woman, So Hear Me Roar!!

I just finished another semester of grad school. My last professor was a Caribbean man. In my class there were five women. 2 Black (1 was me), 1 white and 2 Africans. Almost immediately I noticed his “preference” for the women from Africa. This didn’t bother me because I know I work hard and teachers always have favorites. But during class discussions and even presentations, I noticed his short and sometimes sarcastic remarks towards me and the other Black woman. With our online discussions he sometimes seemed surprised that my responses were as intelligent as they were. And that’s saying something because I really didn’t try that hard, so just imagine if I actually put work into it lol It bothered me, I was taking it personal.   I thought it was an attack against me as a person.  But my other classmate summed it up for me the last day of class.  She said “It’s because we’re regular black, we’re from this country so we’re dumb to him”.

It all made sense.

“The most disrespected person in America is the Black woman.  The most unprotected person in America is the Black woman.  The most neglected person in America is the Black woman.”

This was spoken by Malcolm X in 1962. Sadly it is still relevant.  For a while now when I hear white women discuss women’s issues I got the feeling we (black women) weren’t included in that protest.

And then I heard Patricia Arquette’s speech at the Oscars and got that same feeling. But only when I saw her interview backstage did I know for sure her speech wasn’t intended for women of color. “It’s time for all the women in America and all the men that love women, and all the gay people, and all the people of color that we’ve all fought for to fight for us now.”


Now I don’t think she meant any harm. She just wasn’t thinking about black women or lesbians for that matter either. But that’s just the problem! We are NEVER thought about or considered within this feminist movement.

The fact that she believes that WOC can just put their “little race problems” to the side and pick up the women’s equality issue is just sad. As a person of color AND woman, we are carrying double the load.

The struggle of the Black Woman in America just cannot be compared. Maybe I’m bias because I know this struggle first hand.


Being Mary Jane, Last Night’s Episode(3/31/15)….



(Picture cred, DDotOmen)

So I have many different thoughts and feels from last night’s episode so I’ll list them before I go into the one that I’ve decided to expand on…

Before I even get into my list! Is Sheldon the real MVP or what?! I am loving this man for her!


  1. Mary Jane seems to consistently lash out at her female friends and at this point I dont understand how Val is still friends with her


  1. Her Eff buddy maybe some nice eye candy but he CLEARLY is not the one to have these late night convo’s with…where’s Sheldon when you need him?


  1. Mary Jane MUST be a Virgo! That whole take care of everybody but nobody is there for me thing has Virgo written all over it.


  1. That panel was ON POINT! We as black women fight to death for our men but when it comes time for it to reciprocated, hmph. That’s a whole ‘nother post!


And what I want to talk about…


  1. Patrick should definitely get full custody of his daughter


Not too long ago it was in the news that Ludacris had just been granted full custody of his daughter. What I was surprised about however, was all of the negative backlash he was getting from females on my Facebook feed. “A child should never be without their mother…” Now most of these women were mothers so I’m sure they took it personal. But what if the father actually is the better parent? Also what makes you the better parent just because you are the mother?


Me and my best friend got into a debate because Ludacris apparently asked his baby mother to get an abortion. She, along with many other women, thinks because of that he should not have full custody.  I don’t think that’s fair….how many women have wanted to at first get an abortion and then changed their mind? Do they not deserve full custody because of that? No. We do not know the details of this particular situation but maybe he knew that she wasn’t stable (financially or otherwise) enough to support a child? All of this was as a result of her asking him for more child support.


Yes he might have gotten full custody just because he didn’t want to pay her, but as a parent if you’re constantly asking for more money don’t be surprised when the other parent asks for custody. If you think about it, they might have a strong case just by claiming that you aren’t financially stable. All of this comes as a result of gold diggers having babies just for profit. It’s unfortunate however, that many GOOD mothers can lose custody just because they don’t have as much money…..




Black women: TV’s number one side chick

Black women: TV’s number one side chick

Now everybody knows I love scandal!! If for no reason other than Olivia Pope has my dream job *well besides being the first mistress of the USA, but we’ll get into that later* I would loveeeeeee to work in crisis management! And to own my own firm on top of that!? Sign me up chuck!


Now what I don’t like is her being the presidents mistress. Oh but they’re in love you say, he doesn’t really love his wife you say. 😑😑 oh but when your boyfriends/husbands side chick sings the same song she’s a home-wrecker??

But I was willing to look past that because Olivia seemED to be really trying to sever that tie to Fitz.


Team jake!!

I don’t watch many shows staring black women. I hate reality TV and black women aren’t really the stars in the actions shows I enjoy (The walking dead, Spartacus etc) so I made scandal and being Mary Jane a priority.

Being Mary Jane had me hooked from the pilot. I love Gabrielle Union and I loved the concept behind the show. And plus she was a black women working in the communications field. But when the actual show premiered last week I was left a little disappointed.


During the pilot movie, she discovers the man she was dating is married. I felt horrible for her!! She refused to see him and avoided him the whole 2nd episode.

But of course his stalking her pays off and she ends up sleeping with him again. This when my sympathy runs short. Because at this point she was aware of the situation and chose to go ahead and sleep with him anyway.

“Side chicks” have always and will always be a issue. I do not appreciate turning on my TV to support my black actresses just for them to continue to portray mistresses. C’mon producers we have got to do better.