Straight Outta Compton

I saw Straight Outta Compton Monday morning around 11:00 AM. It was sold out. Yes a Monday morning movie was sold out. So I knew this was something big.

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And I also knew that drama would soon follow.

Maybe I’m reaching here (because I’ve honestly mostly read positive reviews)but I have noticed a few people (in the comments section mostly) talk about how the group disrespects women in their lyrics (true!!) and how they were only used as sexual props in the movie (Untrue)

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Stop reading if you haven’t seen the movie!!!!

So there is one scene I’ll refer to as the “Bye Felicia” scene. Women are walking around naked, having sex etc. etc.

Pause for a moment. Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t part of the “feminist” movement sexual freedom? Meaning being able to do as you please sexually without judgment. So I’m confused why this scene bothers so many feminist. Aren’t these women just exploring their sexual freedom?

Or is it because they are doing so with black men which mean that it’s automatically disrespect? Or is it because they’re black women?

I’ve stated long ago that we as black women are not included in the “American feminist” conversation. I’m honestly okay with that because as sad as it is: Our issues and the issues of white women are not the same.

We are overly sexualized in pop culture. We are told not to bring up race when discussing gender equality, but how can we not!? When our race plays such a huge part in our lives?

I know I’m rambling, but to get back to the point lol I don’t agree with all of NWA’s lyrics but I have to respect the influence they had on Hip Hop culture and on Pop culture in general.

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Now on to their lyrics. Of course their lyrics make me uncomfortable!! Of course! I feel like that goes without saying. But Ice Cube brought up a great point in his recent interview with Rolling Stone. “If you’re a ho, you probably don’t like us. If you’re not a ho or a bitch, don’t be jumping to the defense of these despicable females.” This is true. I think this is the reason why I never became downright outraged at some of their lyrics. And if you’re still confused, listen to Tupac’s “Wonder why they call you Bitch” for further clarification.

Lastly, Dr. Dre

Never really been a Dr. Dre fan because of the domestic abuse allegations against him.

  1. These allegations are not new, they are twenty years old.
  2. I assumed there were a bunch of women he had abused (4-5)
  3. I didn’t know that he had spoken about these incidents and thought he chose to ignore them instead
  4. I also didn’t know that they had settled out of court

Okay so after doing my research, there were only two women accusing him of violence not many like I originally thought. These incidents occurred in the early nineties so why are these women doing interviews and talking negatively about the NWA movie?? I’m sorry. This movie was not about Dr. Dre’s life so what did you expect exactly?

2ndly (and this is just my personal opinion) if you received money instead of pressing criminal charges, you aren’t a victim anymore. You got your money years ago, why are you brining this up now like you never received justice? I wasn’t there so I can’t say what happened or didn’t happen. All I know is what the media reports.

Regardless of how you feel about the group or even the individuals, you cannot deny that this was a great movie and a story that needed to be told.

 

 

Why men get friend zoned!

So in my years of dating, relationships and friendships I have noticed the frustration that men have with being placed in the friend zone…..

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So after consulting a few close friends and twitter, I’ve come up with a few reasons why men get put into the friend zone 😊😀
For guys who always find themselves in this predicament hope this helps:

1. Not aggressive/assertiveness
I’m not saying turn into Ike Turner, but if you never say what your intentions are how is she supposed to know?
2. Being passive aggressive
This is kind of a piggy back from number 1, but what’s even more annoying than not saying your true intentions is making wounded remarks such as but not limited to: “if you had a real man etc”…or sending indirect messages via social networks also known as subtweeting.
3. Had your chance and blew it
Now this one is kind of rare, because usually if you blow it with a female that’s it…but you are given the opportunity to remain cordial, trust me the friend zone is as good as it gets for you….

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